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pity party

an original definition by J. E. Brown

pity party

n., pejorative
A term used by rude and insensitive people and victim blamers and verbal abusers, to inform others that “I find your so-called ‘problems’ annoying.”
For tips on how to identify and deal with the insensitive people in your life, see stoicism and the definition of feeding frenzy in humans.

Antonyms:

supportiveness, empathy, sympathy.
maturity. professionalism.
treating people with respect, allowing people their dignity.

Related Concepts:

dismissiveness; trivializing; unsupportiveness.

kicking people when they’re down.
giving people more stress when they are already stressed out; piling on.

toxic positivity; silencing victims for not being “positive” enough.

conditional love; empathy deficiency; empathy disorders.

abandonment; disloyalty; (instant) compassion fatigue (or never had any compassion to begin with).

abandoning friends in their time of need.

the compulsion to blame victims. {You’re reading “Pity Party” by J. E. Brown.}

Red Flags: Words and Phrases Often Used by Offenders.

Beware of abusive people who criticize you for having emotions. Such people may use one or more of these words. These words usually travel in packs; Google the phrase “pity party” and you’ll usually find all of these abuser keywords flocking together:

  • “a pity party”
  • “self-pity”
  • “Aw, poor poor you!”
  • “feeling sorry for yourself”
  • “pouting”
  • “wallowing”
  • “throwing a tantrum”, “pitching a hissy fit”
  • “trying to get attention”
  • “demanding to be coddled”
  • “taking things too seriously”
  • “whining”

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