"I'll Call You" -- a Survey on Telephone Manners

(answers to Survey 1)


Response: #1
Received: Jul 16, 1997 13:17 ET

Have you ever done this to anyone?

Have you ever promised someone a phone call and then broken your word?

Yes

Why did you make the promise?

Other:

Why didn't you call?

Other:

How did he or she respond?

Didn't



Response: #2
Received: Jul 27, 1997 02:46 ET

Have you ever done this to anyone?

Have you ever promised someone a phone call and then broken your word?

Yes

Why did you make the promise?

I wanted to give or receive information to/from this person

Why didn't you call?

When I made the promise, I fully intended not to call.

How did he or she respond?

Was displeased


Response: #3
Received: Aug 28, 1997 23:27 ET

Have you ever done this to anyone?

Have you ever promised someone a phone call and then broken your word?

Yes

Why did you make the promise?

I just wanted to chat some more
I was too busy to talk then, and wanted to continue later

Why didn't you call?

Other:

How did he or she respond?

Didn't


Response: #4
Received: Nov 21, 1997 04:38 ET

Have you ever done this to anyone?

Have you ever promised someone a phone call and then broken your word?

Yes

Why did you make the promise?

I just wanted to chat some more
I was too busy to talk then, and wanted to continue later

Why didn't you call?

The other person unexpectedly called me first.
The information the other person needed was provided by another source -- there was no need to call.
I felt tongue-tied.
The phone was repeatedly busy.
Something came up -- I was unable to call.

How did he or she respond?

Mentioned it, but let it go

It's ok if you use my name:


Response: #5
Received: Jan 29, 1998 11:11 ET

Why did you make the promise?

I was too busy to talk then, and wanted to continue later

Why didn't you call?

When I made the promise, I fully intended not to call.

How did he or she respond?

Mentioned it, but let it go


Response: #6
Received: Mar 19, 1998 20:52 ET

Why did you make the promise?

I was too busy to talk then, and wanted to continue later

Why didn't you call?

Something came up -- I was unable to call.

How did he or she respond?

Mentioned it, but let it go


Response: #7
Received: Mar 25, 1998 15:51 ET

Why did you make the promise?

I wanted to give or receive information to/from this person
I felt that the promise was socially expected of me

Why didn't you call?

When I made the promise, I fully intended not to call.

How did he or she respond?

Was displeased


Response: #8
Received: Mar 25, 1998 17:04 ET

Why did you make the promise?

I felt that the promise was socially expected of me

Why didn't you call?

I had no idea what we would talk about.

How did he or she respond?

Didn't


Response: #9
Received: Mar 31, 1998 23:41 ET

Have you ever done this to anyone?

Have you ever promised someone a phone call and then broken your word?

Yes

Why did you make the promise?

I felt that the promise was socially expected of me

Why didn't you call?

I felt tongue-tied.
I had no idea what we would talk about.
When I made the promise, I fully intended not to call.

How did he or she respond?

Mentioned it, but let it go



Response: #10
Received: Apr 9, 1998 13:40

Why did you make the promise?

Other:


Response: #11
Received: Apr 28, 1998 03:04 ET

Why did you make the promise?

Other:

Why didn't you call?

When I made the promise, I fully intended not to call.

How did he or she respond?

Was displeased



Response: #12
Received: May 13, 1998 12:08 ET

Have you ever done this to anyone?

Have you ever promised someone a phone call and then broken your word?

Yes

Why did you make the promise?

I wanted to give or receive information to/from this person
I just wanted to chat some more
I felt that the promise was socially expected of me

Why didn't you call?

The information I needed was provided by another source -- there was no need to call.
The information the other person needed was provided by another source -- there was no need to call.
I felt tongue-tied.
I had no idea what we would talk about.
When I made the promise, I fully intended not to call.

How did he or she respond?

Other:

It's ok if you use my name:

Response: #13
Received: Jul 10, 1998 17:42 ET

Have you ever done this to anyone?

Have you ever promised someone a phone call and then broken your word?

Yes

Why did you make the promise?

I felt that the promise was socially expected of me
I was coerced into promising

Why didn't you call?

Soon after the promise, events happened which lowered my esteem for the other person.
When I made the promise, I fully intended not to call.

How did he or she respond?

Mentioned it, but let it go


Response: #14
Received: Dec 30, 1998 04:19 ET

Have you ever done this to anyone?

Have you ever promised someone a phone call and then broken your word?

Yes

Why did you make the promise?

Other:

Why didn't you call?

Other:

How did he or she respond?

Didn't


Response: #15
Received: Jan 6, 1999 07:14 ET

Have you ever done this to anyone?

Have you ever promised someone a phone call and then broken your word?

Yes

Why did you make the promise?

I felt that the promise was socially expected of me

Why didn't you call?

I felt tongue-tied.
I had no idea what we would talk about.
Other:

How did he or she respond?

Mentioned it, but let it go



Response: #16
Received: Feb 11, 1999 18:26 ET

Why did you make the promise?

Other:

Why didn't you call?

The other person unexpectedly called me first.
I felt tongue-tied.
I had no idea what we would talk about.

How did he or she respond?

Other:


Response: #17
Received: Mar 4, 1999 21:09 ET

Have you ever done this to anyone?

Have you ever promised someone a phone call and then broken your word?

Yes

Why did you make the promise?

I was too busy to talk then, and wanted to continue later

Why didn't you call?

I felt tongue-tied.
I had no idea what we would talk about.
Something came up -- I was unable to call.

How did he or she respond?

Other:



Response: #18
Received: Mar 9, 1999 18:43 ET

Why did you make the promise?

I felt that the promise was socially expected of me

Why didn't you call?

I had no idea what we would talk about.

How did he or she respond?

Other:

It's ok if you use my name:

Response: #19
Received: Mar 24, 1999 06:11 ET

Have you ever done this to anyone?

Have you ever promised someone a phone call and then broken your word?

Yes

Why did you make the promise?

Other:

Why didn't you call?

When I made the promise, I fully intended not to call.

How did he or she respond?

Didn't


Response: #20
Received: Mar 28, 1999 02:19 ET

Why did you make the promise?

I was too busy to talk then, and wanted to continue later

Why didn't you call?

Other:

How did he or she respond?

Other:


Response: #21
Received: Apr 20, 1999 19:26 ET

Have you ever done this to anyone?

Have you ever promised someone a phone call and then broken your word?

No/Can't recall ever doing it



Response: #22
Received: Apr 22, 1999 13:23 ET

Have you ever done this to anyone?

Have you ever promised someone a phone call and then broken your word?

Yes

Why did you make the promise?

I was coerced into promising

Why didn't you call?

When I made the promise, I fully intended not to call.
Other:

How did he or she respond?

Mentioned it, but let it go



Response: #23
Received: Jun 30, 1999 16:04 ET

Have you ever done this to anyone?

Have you ever promised someone a phone call and then broken your word?

Yes

Why did you make the promise?

I just wanted to chat some more
I was too busy to talk then, and wanted to continue later

Why didn't you call?

The other person unexpectedly called me first.
Other:

How did he or she respond?

Didn't


Response: #24
Received: Jul 28, 1999 16:16 ET

Why did you make the promise?

I just wanted to chat some more
I was too busy to talk then, and wanted to continue later
I was coerced into promising
Other:

Why didn't you call?

We talked face-to-face instead.
The other person unexpectedly called me first.
Soon after the promise, events happened which lowered my esteem for the other person.
Something came up -- I was unable to call.
When I made the promise, I fully intended not to call.
Other:

How did he or she respond?

Mentioned it, but let it go Other:

It's ok if you give my name:

Editor's note: I asked Silent07, "you checked both 'We talked face-to-face instead' and 'The other person unexpectedly called me first.' I'm confused. Which was it -- did you talk in person, or on the phone? Or -- when you answered this survey, were you thinking of more than one instance in which you had promised someone a phone call?"

Silent07 replied "When I answered the question, I was thinking of more than one instance."



Response: #25
Received: Oct 23, 1999 00:45 ET

Have you ever done this to anyone?

Have you ever promised someone a phone call and then broken your word?

Yes

Why did you make the promise?

I felt that the promise was socially expected of me
I was coerced into promising
Other:

Why didn't you call?

How did he or she respond?

Was displeased
Other:


Response: #26
Received: Feb 10, 2000 19:29 ET

Have you ever done this to anyone?

Have you ever promised someone a phone call and then broken your word?

Yes

Why did you make the promise?

Other:

Why didn't you call?

How did he or she respond?

Other:



Response: #27
Received: Mar 6, 2000 22:10 ET

Why did you make the promise?

I was too busy to talk then, and wanted to continue later

Why didn't you call?

How did he or she respond?

Other:


Response: #28
Received: Mar 29, 2000 09:14 ET

Why did you make the promise?

I just wanted to chat some more

Why didn't you call?

How did he or she respond?

Was displeased

It's ok if you give my name:

Response: #29
Received: Apr 14, 2000 17:30 ET

Why did you make the promise?

I was too busy to talk then, and wanted to continue later
I felt that the promise was socially expected of me

Why didn't you call?

How did he or she respond?

Didn't



Response: #30
Received: May 2, 2000 05:21 ET

Have you ever done this to anyone?

Have you ever promised someone a phone call and then broken your word?

Yes

Why did you make the promise?

Other:

Why didn't you call?

How did he or she respond?

Mentioned it, but let it go
Other:



Response: #31
Received: Oct 26, 2000 23:58 ET

Have you ever done this to anyone?

Have you ever promised someone a phone call and then broken your word?

Yes

Why did you make the promise?

I just wanted to chat some more
I was too busy to talk then, and wanted to continue later

Why didn't you call?

How did he or she respond?

Mentioned it, but let it go Was displeased

Editor's note:
Parents take note: When dishing out punishments, remember that a promise is a promise.
And so, any punishment that keeps your child from fulfilling a promise is unethical.
-- jeb



Response: #32
Received: Jan 15, 2001 17:09 ET

Have you ever done this to anyone?

Have you ever promised someone a phone call and then broken your word?

Yes

Why did you make the promise?

I was too busy to talk then, and wanted to continue later
I felt that the promise was socially expected of me
Other:

Why didn't you call?

How did he or she respond?

Was displeased

Editor's note:
I guess his or her attention span was longer than you thought :^)
-- jeb


Response: #33
Received: Nov 7, 2001 18:25 ET

Why did you make the promise?

I felt that the promise was socially expected of me

Why didn't you call?

How did he or she respond?

Mentioned it, but let it go



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