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definition of I’m not looking for a relationship

an original definition by J. E. Brown

part of a series on The Dangers of Dating:

dating pool • dealbreaker • flaky • honesty • I need more space • just friends • kitchen sinking • leading someone on • needy • no means no • non-monogamy • transference • verbal abuse

I’m not looking for a relationship

assertion, position

An excuse made during relationship breakups, esp. by the person initiating the breakup. A lie.

Related Concepts:

flakiness, insincerity, mind games

Examples:

For an example of how far one person took this lie, see the story of “Charlie and the Cup of Coffee” in Definition of Mind Games.

Ka-boom

Breaker-uppers just love to say “I’m not looking for a relationship right now.” Oh please! You’ve seen these dating-reality-game shows, where young beautiful people confide to the hidden camera how they expect instant intimacy. Right now. You can safely assume that anyone who gives you the old “I’m not looking for a relationship” would burst into flames if hooked up to a lie detector!

Excerpts from my book (in progress)

Comebacks

Responses to a few childish debating tactics.

If someone tells you: Your correct response is:

“I’m not looking for a relationship.”

“Finish the sentence: You’re not looking for a relationship with me.”

— J. E. Brown

1st edition 26 Sep 2021

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