Excerpts from my book (in progress)
Translations
| Statement
| Meaning
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“Get over it!”
| “You should learn to see your problems as unimportant — the way I see them!”
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— J. E. Brown
Comebacks
Responses to a few childish debating tactics.
| If someone tells you:
| Your correct response is:
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Anyone who tells you to “Get over it!”
| “Oh, you don’t like my emotions? Well guess what: Your disgust and annoyance are emotions too. YOU get over it.”
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Anyone who refuses to apologize to you, using the defense tactic “That’s in the past! Get over it!”
| “Oh, I’m sorry: I’ll make a note that you’ve stopped doing it again so that you can claim you’re innocent.”
“It’s not in the past until you apologize for it, a-hole.”
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“Why do you overreact to stuff? Get over it!”
| “I’ve had it with your empathy deficiency. You’re dumped. Get over that.”
“A verbal abuser says what?”
“I’ll ‘get over it’ when you apologize for it and stop doing it!”
“I don’t ‘get over’ injustice. I fight back. Get used to it.”
“You get over your anti-social don’t-care attitude, or start packing your bags.”
“It’s not your place to EVER speak to me in that tone of voice. Next time you do that, I’ll dump you. Is that understood?”
“The next time you tell me to ‘get over’ something, I’m going to get over you.”
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Total strangers who intrude in a web forum or private discussion to tell you to “Get over it!”
| “Mind your own fucking business.”
“It’s my life, so strangers and nobodies don’t get a say. Fuck off.”
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— J. E. Brown
Random Thoughts.
“Get over it” is not an apology; it’s an attempt to trivialize the offense and to display unconcern for the victim.
Any attitude that the burden is on the victim is not remorse.
— J. E. Brown
From the chapter on “How to Be an Insensitive Jerk”
I don’t know if there’s really a book titled How to Be Rude, but if there were, the Devil would speak in bloody red letters, the Conscience would speak in small print, and the book would say something like this:
Never apologize for hurting someone. Instead say, “Hey, mistakes happen! Get over it.”
Have a Stronger-Than-Thou Attitude. Some people who experience a loss go through something called the “Stages of Grief”: They feel sad for a few days, and are generally not very bubbly or cheerful, not much fun to be around. How inconsiderate. You, on the other hand, are made a special way, a way that allows you to get over your losses immediately, and at will. So pat yourself on the back for being Special; and set those crybabies straight. Tell them:
- “Now, now, your late husband wasn’t that good!”
- “You really need to start leaving your personal problems at home.”
- “When it happened to me, I went on a drinking binge for two days. But after that, I decided I was too strong to let it bother me.”
- “You made your bed, now lie in it.”
- “Stop feeling sorry for yourself!”
- “Well, you shouldn’t have been depending on other people for your happiness!” (Most often heard from those who have good support networks.)
- “You call that a problem?”
- “Oh, stop whining. Pain builds cha℞acter.”
(Telling people how to feel is disrespectful. And boorish.)
— J. E. Brown
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Concepts:
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